It’s difficult to remember in the heat of a disagreement that it takes two to quarrel. You choose either conflict or peace.
– What is the source of the conflict?
– How could it be resolved in a manner that would satisfy the interests of all involved?
– How have you contributed to the problem?
When you try to find solutions instead of attempting to affix blame, others will almost always respond in kind.
When you are involved in a fractious relationship, physical and mental energy that could be directed toward positive achievements is dissipated needlessly, squandered upon stressful, unproductive activities. Unfortunately, whatever the cause of friction between individuals, it adversely affects each person involved.
When you find yourself in a contentious relationship, there are few acceptable alternatives. You can work out your problems or leave. Only you know which is the best solution for you, but if you objectively evaluate your reasons for becoming involved and find that they are still valid, your best course of action may be to swallow your pride and find a solution that is acceptable to everyone involved. If you cannot do this, perhaps it’s time to get out of the partnership and find another course toward your objective.
Friction in machinery costs money. Friction in human relationships impoverishes both the spirit and the bank account.