Dec 7, 2017 - Matter of Perspective    Comments Off on We See what we want to See!

We See what we want to See!

You can always see in others whatever traits of character you are looking for.

beholderMargaret Wolfe Hungerford said, “Beauty is in the eye of the beholder.” It was her way of saying that we see what we wish to see in others. Every living human being is a complex combination of feelings, emotions, and thoughts — some good, some bad. Your impression of another depends far more upon you and your expectations of that person.

If you believe someone is good, you will find good qualities. If you don’t, you won’t. When you are yourself a positive person, you tend to find positive qualities in others. As you work to develop good, constructive habits to improve yourself continually, make it a practice to look for those same qualities in others. It’s easy to spot another’s shortcomings, but when you identify the good in others and congratulate them upon their positive achievements, you will make friends on whom you can always depend — both in good times and bad.

Be sure about what you want from life and doubly sure of what you have to give in return.

thinkingchecklistExamine the lives of successful people, and you will find that they have paid a price that is in direct proportion to the amount of success they have earned. Close examination will almost always reveal years of study and preparation before great success is achieved. This principle is consistent in virtually every field of individual achievement — in the arts, medicine, science, or business. Nothing worthwhile ever comes easily.

As you consider your own goals, also consider what you are willing to sacrifice for what you expect to receive. You should be prepared to give generously of your time and talents long before expecting a return on your investment. Many “overnight successes” labored in obscurity for many years before they were finally recognized for their achievements.

What we do not see, what most of us never suspect of existing, is the silent but irresistible power which comes to the rescue of those who fight on in the face of discouragement.

 

Dec 3, 2017 - Mind over Matter    Comments Off on Mind addictions … just as bad.

Mind addictions … just as bad.

The most debilitating problem with drugs is that our body develops a tolerance for them and requires larger and larger doses to achieve the same effect.

The same is true with self-pity. The more you allow yourself to indulge in it, the more you will require. Soon, self-pity will become a habit, one so debilitating that you will rob yourself of all the potential you possess.

Happily, there is a cure. If you truly analyze the situation, most often you will find that the problems that have driven you to pity yourself are mostly of your own creation. It follows, then, that the best person to remedy the problem is the person who created it: you, yourself.  Try to catch yourself feeling low and ask yourself if the feelings are warranted of the situation. Just the process of becoming aware will break the deepening addiction.

True riches of life are far more likely to accrue to those who actively go out and seek them.  Try asking a person you respect for their success how they got started? To a person they will all say something like, “I envisioned my success in my mind and the step materialized.” Seldom does success come marching in accompanied by a brass band in full regalia. More often, it’s achieved by those who labor long and hard. Take the initiative, and you will create your own opportunities. There is no substitute for action backed up by a well-thought-out plan.

Please remember…. No one is ever whipped, until we quit — in our own mind.

The poet John Milton’s words, “They also serve who only stand and wait,” may be both profound and genuine, but the true riches of life are far more likely to accrue to those who actively go out and seek them.

Seldom does success come marching in accompanied by a brass band in full regalia. More often, it’s achieved by those who labor long and hard. Take the initiative, and you will create your own opportunities.

There is no substitute for action backed up by a well-thought-out plan.

Dec 2, 2017 - Matter of Focus, Mind over Matter    Comments Off on Can you Remove the Weeds?

Can you Remove the Weeds?

Human faults are like garden weeds. They grow without cultivation and soon take over the place if they aren’t thinned out.

Habits are formed so slowly that most of us don’t realize what is happening until the habits are too strongly entrenched to be broken. Seldom can one pattern of behavior be eliminated without replacing it with another.

It has been said that nature abhors a vacuum and will always find something to fill a void. The best way to thin out the “weeds,” or faults in your character, is to identify those traits with which you are dissatisfied and replace them with their positive counterparts.

Think about the military for a moment.  Armies spend endless hours training people to follow orders without question. It’s an essential quality in a soldier. Why are they doing this? To erase what they consider the weeds and fill them with the discipline needed for success.

In everyday life, however, the framework for discipline does not exist…it has to be found by our journey of purpose. Business, political, and civic leaders have learned that ordinary people will perform exceptional tasks when they are “asked” not “ordered-to” take action. The secret to successfully incorporating this into your life is paying attention to the tone of your voice. Phrases such as, “Would you mind …” or, “Could I ask your assistance in …” or the always effective, “Please …” will ensure success far more often than intimidating those who work for you. And when you need help from those whose paychecks you do not control, you will find them far more responsive to requests than to orders.

Please remember, all achievement, all earned riches, have their beginning in an idea! Make sure you have healthy “weed free” thoughts in your mind to generate your best ideas.

When you begin to think and grow rich, you will observe that riches begin with a state of mind, with definiteness of purpose, with little or no hard work.

Dec 1, 2017 - Matter of Attitude    Comments Off on If you want BAD – Worry

If you want BAD – Worry

Please read this slowly and really think about it.  Human beings attract what we think about! So if you want Bad in your life, then Worry!

Some people are never free from troubles, mainly because they keep their minds attuned to worry. The mind attracts what it dwells on.

Worry serves no useful purpose and can have a serious adverse effect upon your mental as well as your physical health.

Charles Mayo, who with his brother William founded the famous Mayo Clinic in Rochester, Minnesota, said, “I have never known a man who died from overwork, but many who died from doubt.”

Because worry is directed at some vague, uncertain threat, it is difficult to deal with it logically. The best way to get rid of your worries is to take positive action to eliminate their source.

When you develop a plan for dealing constructively with problems and get to work implementing your plan, you will no longer be troubled by worries.

Isn’t this an intereting comment?

“Television won’t last because people will soon get tired of staring at a plywood box every night.”
— Producer for 20th Century Fox (1946)

Nov 30, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on There are many forms of Wealth!

There are many forms of Wealth!

Financial wealth is only one measure of success.

jumpforjoy2The truly happy and successful individual is the man or woman who is healthy, financially secure, challenged in his or her career, and is making a difference in the lives of others. It isn’t always easy to render service to others. The world is a cynical and dangerous place where others are likely to mistrust your motives. They can be convinced only by consistent, sustained, outstanding service that is enthusiastically and cheerfully offered. In time, even the most cynical individual will come to accept your willingness to go the extra mile if you are sincere in your offers of assistance and in the service you provide.

bending-over-backwardsIt’s easy to find fault with any job. Whatever your occupation or profession, there are always some unpleasant and mundane tasks you would rather omit. It is also easy to allow the things you dislike to dominate your thoughts and for you to overlook the fact that the things you dislike about your work are really a very small percentage of the overall job. Make it a point to find something good in your job every day. It need not be a big, important event; simply finding joy in doing one thing particularly well will suffice. Then, instead of looking forward to the end of the day, you will find yourself actually looking forward to going to work.

Instead of complaining about what you don’t like about your job, start commending what you do like and see how quickly it improves.

Nov 29, 2017 - Mind over Matter    Comments Off on Should Criticism Hurt?

Should Criticism Hurt?

How we handle criticism tells a great deal about us.  If someone takes the time to give you feedback…you are worth the effort to them! Respect what they say and grow for the better…

Most of us don’t mind being told of our faults if the critic is generous enough to mix in a few of our virtues as well.

It’s a normal reaction to defend ourselves and our behavior when someone criticizes us — even if we secretly recognize that what we’re being told is correct.

Those who achieve great success in life, however, are those who have learned to set aside their emotions and learn from others, even when the message is unpleasant.

If you find yourself being evaluated by someone else, tell yourself that criticism of some aspect of your performance is not a personal attack.

Control your emotional reaction and adopt useful ideas even though you may dislike the manner in which the information is delivered.

Make the decision to change!

People who fail to accumulate money, without exception, have the habit of reaching decisions, if at all, very slowly, and of changing these decisions quickly and often.

Nov 28, 2017 - Matter of Caring    Comments Off on The mirror shows us who we meet!

The mirror shows us who we meet!

If life is a mirror….do you meet pleasant or rude people? Politeness usually begins at home or it doesn’t begin at all.

Politeness to others is usually born out of respect for the individual, which you learn as a child. When you are treated with respect by other members of the family, you learn to respect them as well.

The self-esteem that results from being recognized as a unique person by the people who matter most to you helps you develop the confidence necessary to succeed later in life. Politeness and consideration for others are habits that — once developed — usually stay with you for a lifetime.

While common courtesy may seem relatively insignificant in the grand scheme of things, it is a reflection of more basic values. More important, if you develop the habit of respecting others, you are likely to command respect from them.

What a better world this would be if we worked together in harmony toward the achievement of our shared goals instead of engaging in petty disputes and turf battles.

When you allow yourself to be dragged into personality conflicts, game playing, arguments about who gets the credit, and disagreements about trivial issues, they only drain your energy and sour your attitude. Plus you waste valuable time that could be spent on far more important matters.

When you make an effort to understand others’ motivations, you may well discover that your opponents have far more in common with you than you think. When you cage your ego and look at the situation from the other person’s point of view, you can almost always find a way to work together for your mutual advantage.

Sometimes it is wiser to join forces with opponents than to fight them.

What we do not see, what most of us never suspect of existing, is the silent but irresistible power which comes to the rescue of those who fight on in the face of discouragement.

 

Nov 26, 2017 - Matter of Perspective    Comments Off on Sell lemonades to the complainers!

Sell lemonades to the complainers!

If life hands you a lemon, don’t complain, but instead make lemonade to sell to those who are thirsty from complaining.

Wally Amos, the man many consider to be the father of the gourmet cookie industry, has turned lemons into lemonade so often in his life that in his official portrait he holds a pitcher in one hand and a glass of lemonade in the other. A perennial optimist, Amos refuses to acknowledge that obstacles are anything other than stepping-stones to success.

In a career that has spanned several decades, he has made it to the pinnacle of success several times, only to lose everything and be forced to start over. But he’s never lost faith. “You have to have the trust and faith to let go and not agonize,” he says. “Don’t waste your time worrying. Worry is not preparation. Analyze the situation and focus on solutions. There is always an answer.” Offer results, not alibis.

There are many people who — perhaps with the best of intentions — make promises they somehow never get around to keeping. These folks have usually developed a number of perfectly plausible explanations for not meeting their commitments; they have become experts at explaining away their failures.

Successful people, though, are those who accept responsibility for their lives. They know that talk is cheap; actions are all that really matter.

The world is waiting for men and women who seek the opportunity to render real service — the kind of service that lightens the burdens of their neighbors, the kind of service that 95 percent of people do not render because they do not understand it.

When you provide a truly useful service, enthusiastically and in a spirit of genuine helpfulness, success will automatically follow. The world seeks out such individuals and rewards them accordingly.

Nov 25, 2017 - No Matter How    Comments Off on No Matter How…Do it now!

No Matter How…Do it now!

Decide where you are going and how to get there. Then make a start from where you now stand.

The surest way to achieve acceptance in any organization or in any line of work is to be successful. Unfortunately, life doesn’t work that way. No matter how carefully you study a subject, no matter how rationally you make decisions, no matter how well prepared you are, you will occasionally make mistakes. Human beings always do.

The important thing is to realize that temporary setbacks are not permanent failures. Successful people recognize that we all experience temporary setbacks that require us to reevaluate our performance and take corrective action to achieve success. They know that adversity is never permanent.

A resourceful person will always make opportunity fit his or her needs.

The ability to recognize opportunities is a critical element of success, but it is only the beginning. An idea is valuable only if it can be put into practice — by you.

Highly successful people know that there are many ways to capitalize on an opportunity. They evaluate and shape it to fit their capabilities, or they put together a team composed of people with the skills necessary to take advantage of it — whatever it takes to make it work.

Seldom is there any single right answer in business. Often there are any number of right answers. No Matter How…Do it now!  HP computers gets it.

Nov 24, 2017 - Matter of Attraction    Comments Off on BE who you are looking for!

BE who you are looking for!

There is a powerful law in science called polarization. It is the magnetic science used to make all the electronics in our world function. Molecules either move to or away from each other and energy is generated. Follow this link to learn more – http://www.howmagnetswork.com/

By studying this science and applying it to your life you can learn to draw to you what you seek. Start by looking in the Mirror . . . Are you acting like the person who your ideal mate desires? Are you acting like the employee you ideal job would hire? Are you showing inspiration to those around you?

Thoughts which are mixed with any of the feelings of emotions constitute a “magnetic” force which attracts other similar or related thoughts.

If you expect others to have confidence in you, you must conduct yourself in a way that inspires trust. Being so cautious that you never try anything new will damage your credibility just as much as will throwing all caution to the winds and trying any idea that comes along without thinking it through. (Most people equate any kind of extreme behavior with poor judgment.) But don’t fall victim to “analysis paralysis.” Learn to separate facts from opinions and make sure your choices are based on reliable information. Then take action!

A rudderless ship and a purposeless person are eventually stranded on desert sand.

The goals you set for yourself — like the rudder of a ship — will guide you toward your destination, and without them, like a ship without a rudder, you’ll find it impossible to stay the course. Make goal-setting a habit in your life.

If you sometimes have trouble staying focused, set small, attainable goals and stick with the job until it’s done. Examples might include finding a faster, more efficient way to do a routine job. Or taking the most difficult jobs first when you have the most energy and your concentration is at its highest level. Save the easiest jobs for last. A few small successes will inevitably lead to bigger achievements.

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