May 9, 2017 - Matter of Attention    Comments Off on Are you in when opportunity calls

Are you in when opportunity calls

The world is filled with unfortunate souls who didn’t hear opportunity’s knock at the door because they were down at the convenience store buying lottery tickets.

Opportunity wastes no effort looking for the person who is wasting time through idleness or destructive action.

Opportunity knocked but you were outYou will be surprised how much your luck will improve when you make sure you are prepared to take advantage of opportunities.

* Open minded
* Optimistic Attitude
* Rested for Action
* Removed from fears of past challenges or failures

Opportunities somehow always seem to gravitate toward busy people who can hardly keep up with those they already have. Logically, it would seem that opportunities would make an effort to seek out individuals who have an abundance of time available, but instead opportunities appear for those who have goals and dreams and a plan for achieving them.

We often think of opportunity as a living, moving thing, something that actively seeks out a willing recipient.

In fact, the reverse is true. Opportunities are ideas or concepts that exist only in the minds of those who recognize them. When you have no goals or plans, opportunities mean nothing to you. They become opportunities only when you recognize them as ideas that you can implement to help you move toward your goal.

How many times have you had a great idea that you failed to act upon, only to discover later that someone used the same idea to start a business, get a promotion, or find a better job? Resolve now to get into action when you have a good idea.Every wall is a door - Emerson

Don’t wait for something to happen — make it happen!

Take a cue from Branch Rickey, general manager of the Brooklyn Dodgers from 1942–50, who famously observed, “Luck is the residue of design.”

Or Ralph Waldo Emerson’s most famous said “Every Wall is a Door”!

May 8, 2017 - Matter of Importance    Comments Off on Life’s greatest gifts!

Life’s greatest gifts!

Most of us are incapable of “going it alone.” All enduring success is founded upon harmonious human relationships.

joy of othersWhether it is in our careers, in our personal relationships, or in life, we all need others if we are to achieve the level of success we desire. Besides, what’s the point of having it all if we have no one we care about to share it?

You may choose to work with others, you may ignore them, or you may choose to work against them, but the greatest successes in life come to those who work harmoniously with others. When your personal goals coincide with those of another, not only does the power of your combined labors benefit you, but such cooperation also creates a synergistic effect that allows you to achieve far more than the simple sum of your individual efforts.

Know that friendship freely given and gratefully received is one of life’s greatest gifts.

Experts in negotiation handle the process so smoothly that discussions hardly seem like negotiations at all. While the word negotiation itself conjures up visions of cigar-chomping adversaries pounding the table to emphasize their demands, the best results are achieved when all the parties involved are able to put themselves in the others’ shoes and arrive at an agreement that is beneficial to everyone involved.

Whether you are negotiating a higher salary, a new job, or the acquisition of a company, your chances of success are far greater when you approach the situation positively and with a clear objective in mind. It also helps to understand the motives of others involved and to have in-depth knowledge of the subject under discussion. Finally, approach every topic with an open mind — don’t simply try to bully others into accepting your proposal or point of view.

The most important job is that of learning how to negotiate with others without friction.

May 7, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Opportunity or Gift?

Opportunity or Gift?

Opportunities are never just handed to you; they must be created.  This is why we call items given to us – Gifts!

Easy Money is a gift not opportunityOpportunities abound for every individual in every walk of life. They may not be the opportunities that you prefer, but each opportunity of which you take advantage leads to bigger and better opportunities.

Physical and mental handicaps may mean that you have to explore territories unknown to others, but they also mean you have opportunities those others will never find. Think of Stephen Hawking’s brilliant research on the nature of the universe despite the fact that a crippling disease makes writing and speaking, as we know it, impossible for him.

Those who approach their jobs and careers with enthusiasm always find plenty of opportunities, while those who complain about no one ever giving them a chance are merely observers of life.

When you are determined that you will not allow others to determine your future for you, when you refuse to allow temporary setbacks to defeat you, you are destined for great success. The opportunities will always be there for you.

If there are adversities that you cannot overcome right now, remember to capitalize upon them at a later date by looking for the seed of an equivalent or greater benefit.

If the thing you wish to do is right, and you believe in it, go ahead and do it! Put your dream across, and never mind what “they” say if you meet with temporary defeat, for “they,” perhaps, do not know that every failure brings with it the seed of an equivalent success.

May 4, 2017 - Matter of Action    Comments Off on Act like your Hero!

Act like your Hero!

Have you noticed that Ordinary people who do Extra-Ordinary things for others are those we later call heroes.

When asked why they performed as they did, they often say, “It was nothing anyone else wouldn’t have done in the circumstances.” Perhaps that’s their way of saying we all have the capacity for greatness.

It is only when we are severely tested that we rise to the occasion and perform at the highest levels of our competence.

Doing the right things is an easy action when we have created the habit of doing the right thing. If we make it a practice to take the appropriate action even when it seems unimportant and insignificant, we will do the right thing — without thinking — in important situations. If we let our actions speak for us, we will never have to worry about others recognizing our contribution.

If through some terrible, unforeseen tragedy you should die tomorrow, how would your epitaph read? What would others remember about you?

In the final analysis, you will be remembered for your good works, not for the money you have accumulated during your lifetime. Your wealth may be little more than the cause for disagreements among your heirs, while your good deeds will be remembered long after you are gone. As you accumulate wealth, devote a portion of your money and your time to causes that benefit those less fortunate than you.

If you think you can buy your way into heaven with money alone, you may regret that you didn’t convert it into good deeds instead.

Just ask . . . What would your Hero DO! #TheMatterMeter

May 3, 2017 - Matter of Attention, Matter of Focus    Comments Off on How do we learn the best?

How do we learn the best?

Fortunes gravitate to men whose minds have been prepared to attract them, just as surely as water gravitates to the ocean.

oceanFailure seems to be nature’s plan for preparing us for great responsibilities. If everything we attempted in life were achieved with a minimum of effort and came out exactly as planned, how little we would learn — and how boring life would be! And how arrogant we would become if we succeeded at everything we attempted.

Failure allows us to develop the essential quality of humility. It is not easy — when you are the person experiencing failure — to accept it philosophically, serene in the knowledge that this is one of life’s great learning experiences. But it is. Nature’s ways are not always easily understood, but they are repetitive and therefore predictable. You can be absolutely certain that when you feel you are being most unfairly tested, you are being prepared for great achievement.

We human beings are the only creatures on earth who have the capacity for belief. That capacity, combined with our almost innate capability to distinguish right from wrong, provides us with a formidable power in our quest for a richer, more rewarding life. When you set goals for yourself, make sure they are based on doing the right thing for your family, your friends, your clear-forest-in-glassesemployees, and yourself. When others see that you are fair and just in your dealings with them and that you are a generous, principled person, they will move heaven and earth for you.

What we do not see, what most of us never suspect of existing, is the silent but irresistible power which comes to the rescue of those who fight on in the face of discouragement.

The turning point in the lives of those who succeed usually comes at the moment of some crisis, through which they are introduced to their “other selves.”

Might throws itself on the side of those who believe in right. If you think you dare not, you don’t.

May 2, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Protect your Friends like Gold!

Protect your Friends like Gold!

If you must let someone down, be sure it isn’t the friend who helped you up when you were down.

We all have short memories. We become preoccupied with our own interests and daily cares, and it’s easy to lose track of friends. There will always be times when you must choose between what you wish to do and what you must do.

When you are faced with such decisions, make sure you always remember those true and loyal friends who were there when you needed them, and never, under any circumstances, abandon them.

When you let down a friend who helped you when you needed it most, you will not only adversely affect the friendship; you will seriously damage your own self-respect. When you fail a friend, regardless of how heavy your own burdens may be, you also fail yourself. If you absolutely cannot do what good friends would like, find another way to make it up to them.

The safest and best way to punish one who has done you an injustice is to do him or her a kind deed in return.

People will always respond in kind, even in greater measure than that which is delivered to them. This commonplace need for retaliation can be replaced with a response designed to convert an enemy into a friend. If you get rid of the millstone of pride, you can respond to an injustice with a kind deed.

It may take time to make this work, but if you treat those who dislike you with unfailing kindness, they will eventually succumb to your influence and “retaliate” in kind.

As Napoleon Hill said, “The hottest coals of fire ever heaped upon the head of one who has wronged you are the coals of human kindness.”

 

May 1, 2017 - No Matter How    Comments Off on Are you decisive!

Are you decisive!

Opportunity never sneaks up on those who straddle the fence of indecision.

straddlefenceSuccessful people are decisive people. When opportunities come their way, they evaluate them carefully, make a decision, and take appropriate action. They know that indecision wastes time that could be spent on more productive tasks. They also avoid unnecessary risks by implementing their decisions gradually. They don’t attempt to make every decision at the beginning. Each action is contingent upon the success of the one that preceded it.

2directionsBenjamin Franklin, one of America’s wisest men, is said to have used a simple method to make difficult decisions. He drew a line down the center of a sheet of paper, and on one side he listed the “pros” of the decision; on the other, he listed the “cons.” In addition to simplifying the decision-making process, the list also served as a graphic illustration of the advantages and disadvantages of any decision, regardless of its complexity. The impact of the decision could then be quickly and easily assessed.

No individual has sufficient experience, education, native ability, and knowledge to ensure the accumulation of a great fortune, without the cooperation of other people.

Apr 30, 2017 - Matter of Focus, What is the Matter?    Comments Off on An Asset better than Money!

An Asset better than Money!

Friendship recognizes faults in friends but does not speak of them.

Monkey and cheetah great friendsTrue friendship acknowledges imperfections, accepts them as part of our individual makeup, and focuses on our positive aspects instead of expounding upon our faults.

Your friends don’t like you to comment upon their failings any more than you like them to criticize you. When your friends are discouraged or disappointed in themselves, a word of encouragement will serve much better than a sermon.

To be the kind of friend you would like to have, be a good listener, offer advice when you are asked for it, and treasure the trust that your friends have placed in you. Praise them for their achievements and sympathize when they fall short, but avoid offering “constructive criticism” or playing devil’s advocate.

Honesty is a spiritual quality that cannot be evaluated in terms of money.

Kitten protect by dog makes great friendshipThere are many practical reasons to practice honesty. It requires far less effort to be truthful than to be deceitful, and in the long term the risks are fewer and the rewards greater. But in today’s complex society, the boundaries of acceptable behavior have been blurred until they are sometimes indistinguishable.

Laws and codes of ethics establish minimum standards of behavior. Make sure you establish standards for yourself that exceed such minimums, a standard below which you will not allow yourself to fall, regardless of what others may do or say. Your own set of standards will allow you to decide quickly and easily upon an appropriate course of action when faced with a difficult problem.

Most of us expect more from ourselves than anyone else ever would, and we are painfully aware of our shortcomings.

Life is much more rewarding when we bring out the best in our friends not their faults.

Apr 28, 2017 - Mind over Matter    Comments Off on Mind addictions … just as bad.

Mind addictions … just as bad.

The most debilitating problem with drugs is that our body develops a tolerance for them and requires larger and larger doses to achieve the same effect.

The same is true with self-pity. The more you allow yourself to indulge in it, the more you will require. Soon, self-pity will become a habit, one so debilitating that you will rob yourself of all the potential you possess.

Happily, there is a cure. If you truly analyze the situation, most often you will find that the problems that have driven you to pity yourself are mostly of your own creation. It follows, then, that the best person to remedy the problem is the person who created it: you, yourself.  Try to catch yourself feeling low and ask yourself if the feelings are warranted of the situation. Just the process of becoming aware will break the deepening addiction.

True riches of life are far more likely to accrue to those who actively go out and seek them.  Try asking a person you respect for their success how they got started? To a person they will all say something like, “I envisioned my success in my mind and the step materialized.” Seldom does success come marching in accompanied by a brass band in full regalia. More often, it’s achieved by those who labor long and hard. Take the initiative, and you will create your own opportunities. There is no substitute for action backed up by a well-thought-out plan.

Please remember…. No one is ever whipped, until we quit — in our own mind.

The poet John Milton’s words, “They also serve who only stand and wait,” may be both profound and genuine, but the true riches of life are far more likely to accrue to those who actively go out and seek them.

Seldom does success come marching in accompanied by a brass band in full regalia. More often, it’s achieved by those who labor long and hard. Take the initiative, and you will create your own opportunities.

There is no substitute for action backed up by a well-thought-out plan.

Apr 25, 2017 - Matter of Action, No Matter How    Comments Off on Positive minds just get it done.

Positive minds just get it done.

A positive mind finds a way it can be done. A negative mind looks for all the ways it can’t be done.

depressionSomeone once said, “There are no truths; there are only perceptions of truth.” Whether or not you accept this statement, whatever you believe to be true will become your reality. Your subconscious mind will believe anything you tell it — if you repeat the words often and with conviction. When you are faced with a daunting task that you’ve never attempted before, focus on the potential for success, not on the possibilities for failure. Break the job down into smaller elements and tackle each one separately. The only difference between success and failure in any job is your attitude toward it.

boy-rollingIt is a peculiarity of human relationships that it is virtually impossible for one individual to have a lasting positive influence upon members of a group of negative thinkers. Usually, it works the other way. You cannot maintain a positive, productive attitude if you spend all your time with negative people. Those who have wrecked their own lives (and usually blame their misfortune on others) are not the kind of people who will help you achieve success in your own life.

Choose your friends and associates carefully, and refrain from complaints about your job, your company, or any individual. Spend your time with positive, ambitious people who have a plan for their lives. You will find that their optimism is infectious.

If you don’t want your life to be “messed up,” don’t fool around with those who have messed up theirs.

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