Jul 14, 2017 - What Really Matters    Comments Off on What you Really Control

What you Really Control

Does it feel like life is kicking you around and you are being impacted by things out of your control? We have all been there at some point in life.

Here at the Matter Meter, we believe that how you handle these feelings is one of the most important steps in your life! Why?

Because the only thing that we Truly control is how our mind reacts to life circumstances. The fact is that our thoughts and the emotional reaction to these thoughts is ALL  we control.

Life circumstances are inputs – what really matters is our mind and  attitude.  Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in the most difficult of circumstances.  External forces are the bumps along the process to success.

Living life to the fullest is a lot like shooting the rapids in a rubber raft. Once you’ve made the commitment, it’s difficult to change your mind, turn around, and paddle upstream to placid waters. But it’s the excitement and adventure that make it all worthwhile. If you never make the attempt, you may never know the depths of despair, but neither will you experience the exhilaration of success.

Don’t look to the stars for the cause of your misfortunes: use the wisdom inside yourself to make choices and obtain the results you deserve!

There are many things you cannot control, but you can control the only things that really matter: your mind and your attitude. External forces have very little to do with success. Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in the most difficult of circumstances.

Solutions to most problems come from one source and one source alone: yourself.

Jul 10, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Use Facts to convey Emotion!

Use Facts to convey Emotion!

When you ask another person to do something, it may help both him and you if you tell him what to do, why he should do it, when he should do it, where he should do it, and how he may best do it.

solutions-aheadWe are all influenced by our background and experience. We perceive instructions in the context of our education, experience, heritage, the culture of our organization, and a number of other variables. Good managers know this, and they make sure that their instructions are clear, concise, and well understood.

They also know that they must walk a fine line between conveying adequate instructions and killing workers’ incentive by not allowing them sufficient latitude to do their jobs. You may strike the right balance between instruction and motivation by encouraging employees to participate in setting objectives for themselves and their teams, by helping them develop plans for achieving their goals, and by making sure that each individual clearly understands the team’s mission and his or her role in achieving it. Suggest that team members check in occasionally to report their progress, then get out of their way and cheer them on to victory.

Faith is the element, the “chemical” which, when mixed with prayer, gives one direct communication with Infinite Intelligence.

guy-meditating-at-sunsetThe “loneliness at the top” that senior officials often feel comes from the certain knowledge that they alone are responsible for the failure or success of the organization. They may share their authority with associates, but not their responsibility. When a sports franchise suffers a losing season, the general manager and the coaches are held accountable. They, not the individual players, are responsible for the failure of the team; the team merely followed orders. When you become the leader, when you set the course, you must accept responsibility for the outcome.

If you do a job another’s way, he or she must take the responsibility. If you do it your way, you must take the responsibility.

Jul 8, 2017 - Mind over Matter    Comments Off on Thoughts are Things!

Thoughts are Things!

Every thought you release — good or bad — is a form of energy that can affect those who receive it, for better or worse. You become what you think about most.

If you think about success, you condition your mind to seek success, and you attract large portions of it. Conversely, if you think about failure and despair, you will become miserable and desperate. To keep your mind on a positive track, the moment you begin to experience creeping negativism, make a conscious decision to eliminate negative thoughts and replace them with their positive counterparts.

Success throws itself on the side of those who do what is right.

We human beings are the only creatures on earth who have the capacity for belief. That capacity, combined with our almost innate capability to distinguish right from wrong, provides us with a formidable power in our quest for a richer, more rewarding life.

dog-pet-close-upWhen you set goals for yourself, make sure they are based on doing the right thing for your family, your friends, your employees, and yourself.

When others see that you are fair and just in your dealings with them and that you are a generous, principled person, they will move heaven and earth for you.

Please remember that every thought you release becomes the energy that creates a permanent part of your character. Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time.

Make sure you are wearing what you want with your thoughts!

Jul 5, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Why letting GO is a Must!

Why letting GO is a Must!

If you have something you don’t need, give it to someone who needs it. It will come back to you in one way or another.

dog-kidYou know by now how important it is to offer service freely to your community without expecting anything specific in return. You know as well how important the intangible personal benefits of self-respect and inspiration that accompany such action are. But it is also true that by rendering a public service you have an effect on the values in your community.

Your actions are a quiet but steadfast signal to others of the importance of being involved, a sign that success does not require heartless devotion to a cause and a reminder to others of the personal satisfaction you gain from your labor. You will find that you inspire odd-man-outothers to similar actions in different areas, creating a ripple effect that extends far beyond what you alone can do. The community in which you live will become a better place, and you will be happier being a part of it.

Do you have a continuous improvement program for your most valuable asset-your mind? Make sure that you spend at least a half hour each day studying, thinking, and planning. Review your long-, intermediate-, and short-term goals, and measure your progress to date. Are you on schedule for their completion? Ask yourself, “What information do I not have that would help me achieve my goals?” Then gather the information you need and get into action. 

The imagination is literally the workshop wherein are fashioned all plans created by man.

Jul 4, 2017 - What Really Matters    Comments Off on Tone speaks louder than words!

Tone speaks louder than words!

Remember that the tone of your voice often conveys more accurately what is in your mind than do your words.

Your Tone says alotIn a moment of conflict, a suggestion or compromise can salvage a threatened working relationship.

A discouraged person can be motivated again through a few carefully chosen words. In situations like these, the smart person is looking beyond an immediate situation and acting to preserve a future benefit.

But if your voice portrays your own anger, fear, or despair, all the  wisdom you may be trying to offer will be lost.

Those who rise to the top in any organization are those who have learned to control their emotions. When you have a leadership position, others will watch you closely for the signals you send.

You must learn to manage yourself and all the ways in which you convey messages to others if you want to inspire them and demonstrate that you care about all the members of your team.

man_hammickNo one is inherently lazy. It is human nature to want to be doing things unless we are ill. A sure sign of the beginnings of a recovery from illness is the desire to get up and around, to go back to work, to do something — anything.

Inactivity leads to boredom, and boredom leads to “laziness.” Conversely, activity leads to interest, and interest leads to enthusiasm and ambition. W. Clement Stone often says, “The emotions are not always subject to reason, but they are always subject to action!” Determine what you are best at and what you like to do, and develop a burning desire to be the best you can be at it. Then get into action!

A lazy individual either is sick or has not found the work he or she likes best.

Jul 2, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on We Choice how we handle Life!

We Choice how we handle Life!

If you do not agree with others, please remember you Choice how you handle it?

No one can upset you or make you angry unless you allow them to do so.

When you are involved in a dispute with someone else, it may be the only time doing nothing is better than doing something. There’s a practical reason for this: When you quarrel with others — even if you win the argument — you place a great deal of unnecessary stress upon yourself. It is impossible to maintain a Positive Mental Attitude when you allow negative emotions such as anger or hate to dominate your thoughts.

Instead of arguing with others, try asking nonthreatening questions, such as, “Why do you feel this way? What have I done to make you angry? What can I do to help?” You may find that the entire situation has resulted from a simple misunderstanding that can be quickly rectified. Even if problems are more serious, your positive behavior will go a long way toward helping resolve them.

A Positive Mental Attitude is not developed in a single decision to replace negative thoughts with their positive equivalent. It is a sustained commitment that requires personal discipline, the same kind of discipline that is required to stay in shape and maintain your physical health. It is a commitment that must be reinforced daily, or it is soon forgotten and cast upon the scrap heap of good intentions.

Good intentions may be an appropriate starting point for achievement, but they will go nowhere unless you follow through with action. Many people confuse intentions with achievement; after all, it is the idea that is most important, they reason. In reality, the most mediocre idea acted upon is far more valuable than a flash of genius that resides only in your mind. Developing the habit of action may be difficult at first, but the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

When you take charge of your fate and determine that you will live positively in every aspect of your life — physical and mental — you will receive an extra benefit. Positive physical conditioning will reinforce your Positive Mental Attitude, and your positive attitude will help you stay in better physical condition.

Jun 30, 2017 - Mind over Matter    Comments Off on Challenge is your best teacher . . .

Challenge is your best teacher . . .

Most successful people find opportunities in their adversity… if you can see the lessons in the moment you will be way ahead of average.

leader-rolemodelSamuel Johnson once observed that the prospect of being hanged wonderfully focuses the mind. You yourself may have found that your mind seems sharpest when you are faced with the greatest difficulties. Desperation often proves you really are better than you think. But with the exception of an immediate threat to your life or health, there are few situations that require instantaneous action. When the world seems to be conspiring against you and nothing is working out right, pause for a few moments to think the situation through — then develop the most appropriate plan of action, the one that has the greatest likelihood of success.

The other fellow’s mistakes are a weak alibi for your own.

quote-it-is-easy-in-the-world-to-live-after-the-world-s-opinion-it-is-easy-in-solitude-after-our-own-ralph-waldo-emersonRalph Waldo Emerson said: “It is easy in the world to live after the world’s opinion; it is easy in solitude to live after our own; but the great man is he who in the midst of the crowd keeps with perfect sweetness the independence of solitude.”

It’s easy when you are part of a group to “go along to get along,” but when you are able to maintain your own highest standards of integrity — regardless of what others may do — you are destined for greatness. When you have developed a carefully thought out code of personal conduct, you will never have to ask anyone else what the appropriate course of action should be. You will intuitively know.

Most great leaders began in the capacity of followers. They became great leaders because they were intelligent followers.

Jun 29, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Success requires Smart Risk . . .

Success requires Smart Risk . . .

Those who will not take a chance seldom have one thrust upon them.

Success always involves risk. You must take a chance by investing your time, money, and effort. It pays to be thoughtful and deliberate in your analyses of opportunities, but don’t let timidity hold you back. Because you have worked hard to develop those things you must risk, it is natural for you to place a high value on them. But what good are they if you do not put them to use?

You will recognize opportunity only to the extent that you are willing to consider risking your time, money, and effort. Being confident gives you the courage to face risk and act when opportunity arises. No one on earth is going to force success upon you; you will find it only to the degree that you actively seek it out.

The mind grows only through use, and it atrophies through idleness.

Just as the physical body becomes strong through regular exercise, so does the mind require regular use to remain strong. Make sure that your personal development plan includes plenty of mental stimulation. One of the best ways to develop your imagination and visualization skills is through reading. As you read, your mind translates the words into images that help you better understand the concepts about which you are reading. Become a voracious reader.

Read newspapers, trade magazines, self-help books, and novels; all will contribute to your store of knowledge and to your ability to visualize and more effectively use your imagination.

Jun 27, 2017 - Matter of Perspective, What Really Matters    Comments Off on Ideas are thoughts in Action!

Ideas are thoughts in Action!

If you have a better way of doing anything, your idea may be worth a fortune.

In any type of business, the most valuable ideas are those that make money, save money, save time, or improve the way things are done. Every improvement, however slight, is a step in the right direction. Being alert for opportunities to improve things is a function of a positive attitude.

It is virtually impossible to think creatively about opportunities when your thoughts are concentrated on the downside risk instead of the upside potential. As you search for ways to improve your performance, or to find a better, faster, or more economical way to perform a task or build a product, by all means analyze and minimize the risks but focus on the possibilities.

There’s an old adage that those who refuse to learn from history are doomed to repeat it.

So it is with our failures. Unless we learn from our mistakes, we are likely to repeat them until we learn from such experiences and correct our course — or give up and accept temporary defeat as permanent failure. Every setback you encounter in life contains valuable information that, if you study it carefully, will eventually lead you to success.

Without adversity, you would never develop wisdom, and without wisdom, success would be short-lived indeed. When you make a mistake, say, “That’s good! I’ve gotten that out of the way. I will never do that again.” You will no doubt make other mistakes, but they won’t bother you nearly as much when you treat them as learning experiences.

The secret to which I refer cannot be had without a price, although the price is far less than its value. It cannot be had at any price by those who are not intentionally searching for it. It cannot be given away, it cannot be purchased for money, for the reason that it comes in two parts. One part is already in possession of those who are ready for it.

If you don’t know why you failed, you are no wiser than when you began.

Jun 26, 2017 - Matter of Time    Comments Off on If today was your last?

If today was your last?

How would you spend your last Day? Who would it be with?

Why not do this today?

When we live each day as if it were your last, and we develop a keen respect for opportunity. If you had only one more day on this earth, how much sharper your senses would be.

The beauty of nature, the simple pleasures of life, would be indescribably wonderful, and every moment would present an opportunity to spend quality time with your family and strengthen relationships with friends, acquaintances, and business associates. Every thought would be laser-sharp in that highly focused state.

Well, today is the last day on earth for today’s opportunities. Don’t let them pass you by.

Act as IF what you wanted IS happening and see how different life looks!

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