Jul 26, 2017 - What Really Matters    Comments Off on What would Santa Say about You?

What would Santa Say about You?

Don’t blame children who are bad. Blame those who failed to discipline them.

emerson-pathRalph Waldo Emerson once observed, “Our chief want in life is somebody who will make us do what we can.” Although children typically do not recognize it at the time, they crave discipline, particularly early in their life. Discipline defines boundaries, provides security, and trains us to know what actions we should take to make to move down our life purpose. Most important, it prepares them for the challenges of adulthood.

If your childhood was less than perfect, you are in good company. Most of us have experienced difficulties at one time or another, and we all make mistakes from time to time. The good news is that while your environment as a child will have a profound influence upon the person you become, it is not the sole determinant. The person you choose to be is entirely up to you. Only you can decide who and what you will become in life.

emersonpathThose who think they can get by in life without providing the same amount of value for value received will eventually find themselves working harder than ever to deceive others and receiving very little in return. Life has a funny way of evening the score.

In the long run, you will get in the same measure you give. Spend your time on productive, positive efforts; give generously of your time and talents, and you will stand out from the great multitudes whose primary goal in life seems to be to get something for nothing.

The one who tries to get something for nothing generally winds up getting nothing for something.

Jul 17, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Strong Character – Great Decisions!

Strong Character – Great Decisions!

Sound character is our greatest asset because it provides the power with which we may ride the emergencies of life instead of going down under them.

Without Positive Mental Attitude, life might be described as long periods of uncertainty punctuated by occasional emergencies that shake you to the very core of your being. The emergencies may be financial, personal, or health related, but each must be dealt with separately and swiftly.

The surest way to deal with any crisis is to focus on solutions, not on the probable cause of the problem or who should be blamed for it. It is much more productive in your circumstance to conduct a quick damage assessment. Think through various alternatives and their consequences. Then act to implement the best solution. If you deal with life’s emergencies as they occur — on your own terms — you will be a stronger, better person for having looked them in the eye and conquered them.

Faith is the head chemist of the mind. When faith is blended with thought, the subconscious mind instantly picks up the vibration, translates it into its spiritual equivalent, and transmits it to Infinite Intelligence, as in the case of prayer.

Jul 15, 2017 - What Really Matters    Comments Off on Real Friends know all about You.

Real Friends know all about You.

A friend is one who knows all about you and still respects you.

friendsA true friend is a priceless gift. When we reveal our hopes, our dreams, and our deepest secrets to others, and they still like and respect us, such people are to be cherished. All too often, the only reason others wish to spend time with us — to be our friends — is because of what they perceive we can do for them, not the other way around.

A real friendship is reciprocal, one in which each friend benefits equally. You can earn the friendship of others by being the kind of person who deserves respect from friends. When others look up to you, it should make you even more conscious of the responsibility you have to treat them with the same respect you would like them to afford you.

Ability is greater than money because it can be neither lost nor stolen.

sinkin+shipIf you study the lives of very successful people, you will find that they rarely climb to the top of their business or profession and stay there. They often climb to the top and fall to the bottom several times during their careers, but they know that the one thing that got them where they are — their ability — is always there to help them reach the top again. Your ability is the one thing that you own exclusively. No one can ever take it from you.

Before worrying about how to get more pay, try thinking how you can do a better job and you may not need to worry.

 

 

Jul 14, 2017 - What Really Matters    Comments Off on What you Really Control

What you Really Control

Does it feel like life is kicking you around and you are being impacted by things out of your control? We have all been there at some point in life.

Here at the Matter Meter, we believe that how you handle these feelings is one of the most important steps in your life! Why?

Because the only thing that we Truly control is how our mind reacts to life circumstances. The fact is that our thoughts and the emotional reaction to these thoughts is ALL  we control.

Life circumstances are inputs – what really matters is our mind and  attitude.  Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in the most difficult of circumstances.  External forces are the bumps along the process to success.

Living life to the fullest is a lot like shooting the rapids in a rubber raft. Once you’ve made the commitment, it’s difficult to change your mind, turn around, and paddle upstream to placid waters. But it’s the excitement and adventure that make it all worthwhile. If you never make the attempt, you may never know the depths of despair, but neither will you experience the exhilaration of success.

Don’t look to the stars for the cause of your misfortunes: use the wisdom inside yourself to make choices and obtain the results you deserve!

There are many things you cannot control, but you can control the only things that really matter: your mind and your attitude. External forces have very little to do with success. Those who program themselves for success find a way to succeed even in the most difficult of circumstances.

Solutions to most problems come from one source and one source alone: yourself.

Jul 10, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Use Facts to convey Emotion!

Use Facts to convey Emotion!

When you ask another person to do something, it may help both him and you if you tell him what to do, why he should do it, when he should do it, where he should do it, and how he may best do it.

solutions-aheadWe are all influenced by our background and experience. We perceive instructions in the context of our education, experience, heritage, the culture of our organization, and a number of other variables. Good managers know this, and they make sure that their instructions are clear, concise, and well understood.

They also know that they must walk a fine line between conveying adequate instructions and killing workers’ incentive by not allowing them sufficient latitude to do their jobs. You may strike the right balance between instruction and motivation by encouraging employees to participate in setting objectives for themselves and their teams, by helping them develop plans for achieving their goals, and by making sure that each individual clearly understands the team’s mission and his or her role in achieving it. Suggest that team members check in occasionally to report their progress, then get out of their way and cheer them on to victory.

Faith is the element, the “chemical” which, when mixed with prayer, gives one direct communication with Infinite Intelligence.

guy-meditating-at-sunsetThe “loneliness at the top” that senior officials often feel comes from the certain knowledge that they alone are responsible for the failure or success of the organization. They may share their authority with associates, but not their responsibility. When a sports franchise suffers a losing season, the general manager and the coaches are held accountable. They, not the individual players, are responsible for the failure of the team; the team merely followed orders. When you become the leader, when you set the course, you must accept responsibility for the outcome.

If you do a job another’s way, he or she must take the responsibility. If you do it your way, you must take the responsibility.

Jul 8, 2017 - Mind over Matter    Comments Off on Thoughts are Things!

Thoughts are Things!

Every thought you release — good or bad — is a form of energy that can affect those who receive it, for better or worse. You become what you think about most.

If you think about success, you condition your mind to seek success, and you attract large portions of it. Conversely, if you think about failure and despair, you will become miserable and desperate. To keep your mind on a positive track, the moment you begin to experience creeping negativism, make a conscious decision to eliminate negative thoughts and replace them with their positive counterparts.

Success throws itself on the side of those who do what is right.

We human beings are the only creatures on earth who have the capacity for belief. That capacity, combined with our almost innate capability to distinguish right from wrong, provides us with a formidable power in our quest for a richer, more rewarding life.

dog-pet-close-upWhen you set goals for yourself, make sure they are based on doing the right thing for your family, your friends, your employees, and yourself.

When others see that you are fair and just in your dealings with them and that you are a generous, principled person, they will move heaven and earth for you.

Please remember that every thought you release becomes the energy that creates a permanent part of your character. Positive and negative emotions cannot occupy the mind at the same time.

Make sure you are wearing what you want with your thoughts!

Jul 6, 2017 - Matter of Focus    Comments Off on Don’t be afraid to aim high!

Don’t be afraid to aim high!

Don’t be afraid to aim high when choosing your life’s goal, for no matter how high you aim, you will accomplish more than you have today!

Ideas are intangible forces, but they have more power than the physical brains that give birth to them.  Every success and every temporary setback only serve to prepare you for the time when you will eventually prevail. Your short-and medium-term goals should be realistic and achievable, but your long-term goals should always far exceed your present capabilities.

As the Roman poet Virgil said, “Fortune sides with him who dares.” Only the highway of useful service leads to the city of happiness. Psychologists who study human behavior have concluded that we are happiest when we are striving to achieve success. It is the act of striving, not the successful completion of the task, that provides the greatest psychic rewards.

When you strive to achieve success through service to others, you multiply the benefits to yourself, and you ensure that whatever road you choose in life will ultimately lead you to success and happiness. There is no occupation or profession that will not benefit from a concerted effort to better serve others. But the greatest benefit will be to you, in the form of the self-satisfaction that comes from knowing that you made a difference, that without you others would never have received the service you provided.

Jul 5, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on Why letting GO is a Must!

Why letting GO is a Must!

If you have something you don’t need, give it to someone who needs it. It will come back to you in one way or another.

dog-kidYou know by now how important it is to offer service freely to your community without expecting anything specific in return. You know as well how important the intangible personal benefits of self-respect and inspiration that accompany such action are. But it is also true that by rendering a public service you have an effect on the values in your community.

Your actions are a quiet but steadfast signal to others of the importance of being involved, a sign that success does not require heartless devotion to a cause and a reminder to others of the personal satisfaction you gain from your labor. You will find that you inspire odd-man-outothers to similar actions in different areas, creating a ripple effect that extends far beyond what you alone can do. The community in which you live will become a better place, and you will be happier being a part of it.

Do you have a continuous improvement program for your most valuable asset-your mind? Make sure that you spend at least a half hour each day studying, thinking, and planning. Review your long-, intermediate-, and short-term goals, and measure your progress to date. Are you on schedule for their completion? Ask yourself, “What information do I not have that would help me achieve my goals?” Then gather the information you need and get into action. 

The imagination is literally the workshop wherein are fashioned all plans created by man.

Jul 4, 2017 - What Really Matters    Comments Off on Tone speaks louder than words!

Tone speaks louder than words!

Remember that the tone of your voice often conveys more accurately what is in your mind than do your words.

Your Tone says alotIn a moment of conflict, a suggestion or compromise can salvage a threatened working relationship.

A discouraged person can be motivated again through a few carefully chosen words. In situations like these, the smart person is looking beyond an immediate situation and acting to preserve a future benefit.

But if your voice portrays your own anger, fear, or despair, all the  wisdom you may be trying to offer will be lost.

Those who rise to the top in any organization are those who have learned to control their emotions. When you have a leadership position, others will watch you closely for the signals you send.

You must learn to manage yourself and all the ways in which you convey messages to others if you want to inspire them and demonstrate that you care about all the members of your team.

man_hammickNo one is inherently lazy. It is human nature to want to be doing things unless we are ill. A sure sign of the beginnings of a recovery from illness is the desire to get up and around, to go back to work, to do something — anything.

Inactivity leads to boredom, and boredom leads to “laziness.” Conversely, activity leads to interest, and interest leads to enthusiasm and ambition. W. Clement Stone often says, “The emotions are not always subject to reason, but they are always subject to action!” Determine what you are best at and what you like to do, and develop a burning desire to be the best you can be at it. Then get into action!

A lazy individual either is sick or has not found the work he or she likes best.

Jul 2, 2017 - What is the Matter?    Comments Off on We Choice how we handle Life!

We Choice how we handle Life!

If you do not agree with others, please remember you Choice how you handle it?

No one can upset you or make you angry unless you allow them to do so.

When you are involved in a dispute with someone else, it may be the only time doing nothing is better than doing something. There’s a practical reason for this: When you quarrel with others — even if you win the argument — you place a great deal of unnecessary stress upon yourself. It is impossible to maintain a Positive Mental Attitude when you allow negative emotions such as anger or hate to dominate your thoughts.

Instead of arguing with others, try asking nonthreatening questions, such as, “Why do you feel this way? What have I done to make you angry? What can I do to help?” You may find that the entire situation has resulted from a simple misunderstanding that can be quickly rectified. Even if problems are more serious, your positive behavior will go a long way toward helping resolve them.

A Positive Mental Attitude is not developed in a single decision to replace negative thoughts with their positive equivalent. It is a sustained commitment that requires personal discipline, the same kind of discipline that is required to stay in shape and maintain your physical health. It is a commitment that must be reinforced daily, or it is soon forgotten and cast upon the scrap heap of good intentions.

Good intentions may be an appropriate starting point for achievement, but they will go nowhere unless you follow through with action. Many people confuse intentions with achievement; after all, it is the idea that is most important, they reason. In reality, the most mediocre idea acted upon is far more valuable than a flash of genius that resides only in your mind. Developing the habit of action may be difficult at first, but the more you practice it, the easier it becomes.

When you take charge of your fate and determine that you will live positively in every aspect of your life — physical and mental — you will receive an extra benefit. Positive physical conditioning will reinforce your Positive Mental Attitude, and your positive attitude will help you stay in better physical condition.

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